Soulful Sunday: Quote

 Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson

A Note on Success: The Company You Keep

Is it  better to be alone then to be in the wrong company?  

Questions pertaining to the valuable role your relationships, associations, and friendships play on ones personal growth has eternally been pounding away in the minds of men. It often seem as though we shy away from answering this important question, and as your co-traveler on the journey to success I think its part of my duty to keep it real with you. 


You are and always will be/ become the company you keep.

Not trying to get all hippie and neo-spiritual on you (if you know me you know that I kind of fall sloppily into both of those realms anyway) but I truly believe the residual energies of negative people and unbalanced relationships will be transferred to you, bringing you negativity and downfall in other aspect of life. That means business, academic achievement, and even in love. There is no way that you can hang around trash and then not smell like trash.

You are the creator and keep of your personal image and brand, which is all you have when marketing yourself to others. Keeping poor company with unsavory people will cause your reputation to precede you, and not in the way you desire. Would you want to walk into a networking event in New York City with top people in your industry and have them turn their noses and whisper as you walk past?

Everyone has heard the whole birds of a feather flock together, lay down with dogs and get up with fleas thing. So as a responsible adult you should know better than to make best friends with the office gossip queen or the girl that unbuttons those jeans a little to quickly. 

Ultimately the goal is to surround yourself with people who you would want to reflect some aspect of you and also in what regard you hold yourself. We all have flaws (believe I have my own) and we are all diverse beings, but the pros must outweigh the cons and good times must outweigh the bad. 

In this stage of developing, molding, and  gently grooming ourselves to gain all that we wish your network and relationships share the value of gold. Pursue positive friendships, relationships, and associations just as rigorously as you pursue your career. Those people can be the wind that fills your sails and moves you forward on your journey or the anchor that holds you down in the same place forever, possible causing you to sink.

I challenge you to take charge of your spiritual, mental, physical, and SOCIAL health. Im coining the term social health as your wellness in term of the relationships you hold with society, your culture, groups, and the outside world. 

Relationships: Build them up strong, and use each other to soar.

Here is something to chew on, I know you mind is hungry:

"The wrong people drain your energy and stomp on your dreams. The right people help you feel inspired and motivated."

“False friends are worse than open enemies”

"He who stays near vermilion gets stained red,and he who stays near ink gets stained black"

"Tell me the company you keep, and I'll tell you what you are"

If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. 

"Your only as good as the company you keep"

"If a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances through life, he will soon find himself alone.  A man should keep his friendships in constant repair."  -Samuel Johnson

"A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down."  -Arnold Glasow

"The antidote for fifty enemies is one friend."  -Aristotle

Peace, Power, and Love!  


Where you will soon be

A small effort now can make a big difference later. You can dramatically increase the effectiveness of your actions simply by taking them sooner.
As you go through the moments of this day, you are creating many of the circumstances in which you will live tomorrow. A few small, positive actions right now can bring great value as you move forward.

You cannot change where you already are. Yet you can have a significant and dramatic effect on where you will soon be.

Live this moment with joy, with purpose and with passion. And use this moment to inject into your life and your world the kind of substance and value that can last a lifetime.

You cannot instantly change your circumstances. You can, however, instantly change the direction in which you're headed.

Point yourself firmly and resolutely in the direction of your dreams. For where you choose right now to go, is where you will soon be.

-- Ralph Marston 


When you begin a great work you can't expect to finish it all at once;therefore do you and your brothers press on, and let nothing discourage you till you have entirely finished what you have begun. 
Now, Brother, as for me, I assure you I will press on, and the contrary winds may blow strong in my face, yet I will go forward and never turn back, and continue to press forward until I have finished, and I would have you do the same... Though you may hear birds singing on this side and that side, you must not take notice of that, but hear me when I speak to you, and take it to heart, for you may always depend that what I say shall be true.
                                                                 Deleware Native American

 An excerpt from the wonderful book Native American Wisdom, a personal favorite. 

peace, power, and love


Le sigh...

Seventeen Again

When I was SEVENTEEN I graduated from high school, began my first internship at the Travel Channel, started my tenure at Howard University (youuuuu know!), was chosen as one of the Best Dressed Girls in America by the good people SEVENTEEN Magazine, and also had the amazing opportunity later in that year to serve as the first HBCU representative of their college correspondency program called Freshman 15. 

Very good times I must say, but being the dynamic creatures we are it's impossible to stay the same forever and not progress. For the last two weeks I have been in period of reflection and deep thought in preperation for my personal great progression. I spent time thinking about my roots and the elements that have propelled me to take my place amongst the winners. After that thorough reflection session I've decided to pay homage to one of my most eventful years of life thus far and to the magazine that inspired me to use the pen as my weapon to change the world.

Growing up in a single parent home with a mom who spent 10 plus hours at work didn't make blossoming any easier than the task already was meant to be. I had the joy of finding out  about "the facts of life" on my own. After many attempted #fails at run ins with boys, trying to do my unruly hair, and putting together some sense of style I had my first encounter with SEVENTEEN.  It wouldn't be long before I fell in love with the bright colors and the great advice that resided within the pages for clueless tween girls like myself .

Since first published in 1944 by Walter Annenberg's Triangle Publications, SEVENTEEN has become the highest ranked magazine in its genre nationwide and remains a global leading publication.

The rag offers stories of real girls worldwide (they have several international editions including Singapore and South Africa). Writers and contributors provide advice on fashion trends, beauty, skin care, ways to volunteer and be socially active, love, sex, and planning a prosperous future. I personally loved that they always featured DIVERSE models; Asian, Hispanic, Plus Sized. One of their sections, A Letter to Me at 17, even gave me some inspiration for my upcoming book Letter to Georgia: A Life Guide For Our Little Sisters.  

What most captivated me about the mag was the then Editor-in-Chief Atoosa Rubenstein. For my Afrocentric family: a righteous Queen upon her throne; For my hood folks: a badd b!tch.

She totally inspired me to become a fighter and protector of young women. From her Manhattan office to the basement of my aunts townhouse in Maryland she taught me to love what I was workin' with  and that it was sexy to be smart, proud, and confident.

Just In Case You Didn't Know:

She was born in Tehran, Iran

Was  a Poli Sci Major but always dreamed of working in the Mag Industry

In 93' she became a fashion assistant at Cosmopolitan and five years later became the Senior Fashion Editor

Hearst Magazine's president Cathleen Black asked her to come up with a concept for a new mag and within 48 hours she created CosmoGIRL!

 Delivered total newsstand growth of 23% after two years as EIC at SEVENTEEN

Yeah... A Boss.

Having the opportunity to interact and work with the folks at the magazine was a life long dream come true as you can imagine.  It was a little taste of a goal accomplished, but if you know me then you know I'm craving more.

Thanks Atoosa and all the folk at SEVENTEEN for being an inspiration and feeding the hunger of a kid just looking to achieve.

Check me out at age SEVENTEEN getting pumped for the @LupeFiasco concert that was coming the University of Maryland College Park. I was a total geek but hey, I love Anique... always and forever.


Random Late Night Thinking...

REmindER,  Spring has Sprung and that means its time to clean out the closet in preparation for some new editions. This week I'll be hitting up the Thrift Shop and the mall in search of a few things:

Flats: Yes we love our sexy heels, but the working girl knows the importance of a cute flat shoe, especially when hiking the hills in Washington, D.C.
Leather flat, Pour La Victoire, at Bloomingdale’s 

Woven Leather Zip Down Flat at Barney's

Color block Keds

Hair Accessory: A cute trend for Spring/ Summer 2010 is the Hair Bow. Reminds me a little of the velvet Christmas dresses I was forced to wear growing up.

(2) Forever 21

Gaga had some fun with this style, if your locs are right maybe you can try it too:

Dresses: I love, love, love dresses all year round and they only get better in the Spring/Summer months

Arden B

Pac Sun

(2) Top Shop

Also on the List:

A Record Player

Colorful Shorts

A New Summer Suit for the Internship


2 Swimsuits 


Whatever cute stuff I find Thrifting



Greasy Bastards

Me and Madre Earth are kind of compadres and when crappy things, thousands of gallons of oil spilling into the ocean, happens we get upset.

In case you been under a rock or a toxic rain cloud since this weekend and haven't been able to watch the news, an immense oil spill has occurred in the Gulf  of Mexico that is endangering wildlife, markets, and the environment. 

From what the pundits are dropping we can now tally up British Petroleum (BP) as the company to blame for the blast that  caused  the leak. The leak began after the explosion and sinking of an oil rig 50 miles off the Louisiana coast on April 20 that killed 11 people. Since that day an estimated 5,000 barrels (which is more than 42,000 gallons) of oil a day is flowing into the sea. The Huffington Post reported that the oil will be washing up along a broad stretch of shore land  including the white beaches of Florida to the swamps of Louisiana.  The Post says that the leak threatens "hundreds of miles of coastline in four states, with waters that are home to dolphins, sea birds, and prime fishing and tourism areas."

I have little concern about the reputation of  BP and the load of political issues and fines they have coming their way. My major concern are the innocent who will loose jobs or have to close businesses in an already tough economy, those who make their living off of the sea food industry, those who will be negatively impacted by the sharp increase in gas/ utility prices, and the wildlife that will die because of the poison that has spilled into their homes.

Im not quite up to date on current policy and proposed legislation dealing with off shore drilling, new energy, and domestic energy source exploration but I beg of us all to stay informed and hold our local representatives accountable. 

Though I may be unaware of the current policy on the issue I am very certain of the importance of this issue on courtroom, house and senate floors. Lobbyist from big oil companies like BP throw great deals of money toward our politicians to help persuade them to vote in line with their company agendas. 

Become informed and active, and remember that Madre Earth will only sustain us as long as we sustain her. 

Peace, Power, and Love